Name Calling at the Grocery Store

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I was doing some grocery shopping with my ten year old son the other day and as we were standing in the aisle, picking out a few things, a lady stormed past us. She immediately started yelling at the two teenage girls sharing the aisle with us.

Her voice was filled with anger as she told the girls (her daughters) that she had been looking all over the store for them.

It was obvious she had been worried, but she was also mad.

She then proceeded in a very loud voice to chew them out.

It wasn’t her choice of four letter words that bothered me most – but her name calling. “Fat” and “ugly” were thrown out multiple times and my heart broke for those girls because I’m certain it wasn’t the first time that they had been called those things.

 

Parents – please think about the words you use with your kids.

 

I know parenting can at times be very frustrating. Sometimes we’re tired, worn thin, at the end of our rope – but the words you use with your kids will stick with them more than what anyone else ever says.

Thanks to television, magazines, music videos, social media and their peers at school, kids today will inevitably feel as if they’re not good enough, they’re not tall enough, fast enough, smart enough, or skinny enough. There’s not much you can do to stop that.

You can however fight against it.

Your kids need to hear you say that you love them. Don’t just think they know it – say it to them, all the time.

What is your child particularly good at? Math, reading, art, helping other people, being kind to younger kids… Whatever it may be, magnify their strengths – out loud.

One of the most important things parents can tell their kids is: “I’m proud of you”.

Everyone wants to know that someone is proud of them; kids most of all.

Tonight at the dinner table, tell your child something they did that made you proud – just watch as their face lights up.

Parents, you have the ability to make your words the most important ones your kids will hear today.

Kids who are verbally torn down at home, who are called names and made fun of by the ones who should love them the very most, will grow up believing every other name that is thrown in their direction.

I’ve seen it happen many times.

But kids who are built up – who know they are loved, who know their strengths because they are reminded of them often, kids who know they make their parents proud – they have a much better chance of flicking off all the garbage the world tries to throw at them.

It’s not too late parents, and if you mess up, that’s ok. That’s what “I’m sorry” is for.

I pray all the time that God helps me to be the very best mom I possibly can to my three children and that most certainty includes my words.

Build them up.

Tell them you love them.

Magnify their strengths.

And let them know just how proud of them you truly are.